Just for Lady Writers
Single men tend to just live somewhere. All women are homemakers. Men are notoriously single-minded, while women think along complex lines. They're born multi-taskers. I think it is a biological necessity for motherhood. However, I've written elsewhere on how to write like a man, and this is an extension of those thoughts.
Recently I read in another writing blog that the way to commit yourself to your writing goals is to begin the new year by running around cleaning your house and picking up the mess. Aaaaanh! Not so. The way to commit yourself to writing is to sit down and write. Leave the mess. Trust me, it will be there when you finish writing. Something always needs to be cleaned up. As quickly as you wash the dishes, more are used. People shed dirty clothes as fast as you wash them.
Real writers write. They don't just talk about it, make plans, take classes, read books. You're not fully committed to being a writer if you aren't writing. In my book there's no such animal as a partial commitment, either. That would be similar to partial pregnancy. Either you're going to deliver a poem, an article, a book--or not.
Recently I read in another writing blog that the way to commit yourself to your writing goals is to begin the new year by running around cleaning your house and picking up the mess. Aaaaanh! Not so. The way to commit yourself to writing is to sit down and write. Leave the mess. Trust me, it will be there when you finish writing. Something always needs to be cleaned up. As quickly as you wash the dishes, more are used. People shed dirty clothes as fast as you wash them.Real writers write. They don't just talk about it, make plans, take classes, read books. You're not fully committed to being a writer if you aren't writing. In my book there's no such animal as a partial commitment, either. That would be similar to partial pregnancy. Either you're going to deliver a poem, an article, a book--or not.
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8 Comments:
Great advice as always. It reminds me of what Dorothea Brande wrote:
"At the Typewriter: Write! Teach yourself as soon as possible to work the moment you sit down to a machine, or settle yourself with pad and pencil."
Becoming a Writer, Dorothea Brande, Harcourt, Brace and Company, 1934.
Thanks, Georganna. Happy New Year.
Naybe and maybe not.
I sense that excuse for disorderly conduct is about worn out whether it's directed at either male or female.
Chuck
I meant to add that I have no trouble leaving a mess behind. And you are right, the mess always waits for me.
And a Happy New Year to you, too, Beth. Thanks for the quotation and resource. That sounds like a book I read way back in the 70s when I was learning to be a freelance writer.
I debate deleting the anonymous (damn Blogger!) post by "Chuck". I thought I had done away with allowing the cowardly to take potshots.
*shrugs*
Since when is dedication a misdemeanor?
I've just happened on your blog. When you're a writer you have to write. I can't afford writer's block when I have a deadline. I'd love to ponder and take a few classes, but I have to write--financially and emotionally! I relax by writing a blog.
terrific advice but do you live alone...I don't feel my life is very complicated but when I chose a time to actually write invariably someone needs my attention elswhere... that's why I love to blog..it just takes a moment when you only have a moment to spare..I love reading your stuff by the way..happy New Year...
I understand exactly what you mean, Marty! Welcome, and keep coming back.
Maunie, I was married 25 years and began freelancing when my daughter was about three years old. Dedication to writing means that, unless it's a dire emergency for someone in your care (adult or child), you write. Guard your writing time like a ferocious lioness! It's O.K. to be committed to being a wife and mother first, but understand that this is not the way to success as a writer. Life is full of tough choices. In every choice is a loss. Every loss hurts ... someone or another.
I think as long as we don't confuse putting family first with putting housecleaning first and dishes first and cooking first, etc. we can still keep the priorities we want to. I think I put my kids before the writing when they were growing up, but it tended to be spending time reading to them or going to see what they'd built in the corn crib, or listening to a story. The other stuff--baking cookies and cleaning--came AFTER the writing got done. I don't think anyone felt short-changed--and I got to have my career AND my kids. With moms, where there's a will, there's a way!
Kristi Holl
www.KristiHoll.com
www.Writers-First-Aid.blogspot.com
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